Loneliness in Life
All of us have experienced a sense of loneliness surrounding us at some point in our lives. We may have family, friends and followers who surround, appreciate & love us. They may be filling our lives with happiness and make us feel great and wanted. But deep down we still feel inexplicably empty, fearful & lonely. Why is this so? What is this loneliness all about? Is it real or is it made up in our minds? How do we find a solution to this loneliness so that we can genuinely feel filled with peace, love & happiness?
Kinds of Loneliness
|Kinds of Loneliness|
There are people who are actually lonely in their lives. Either their loved ones left them for some reason or they themselves chose to be on their own. If you have chosen to be left alone, either you are strong enough to survive on your own without any outside support of any kind or you value your freedom and want to carve out your own path in life which is a good thing. Choosing to be alone doesn’t mean we are lonely.
But the situation where people are forced to live in loneliness is an ugly one. The reason can be anything like having no family or non-friendliness of family & friends. It’s a difficult situation to be in. Unfortunately, some people give up in this fight against loneliness and either commit suicide or choose to live their life in sadness & hopelessness.
But there are also people who accept their situation, start life afresh and rise to a completely new level of hope, enthusiasm & liveliness even when alone. They show and teach everyone that happiness comes from within and if we want, we can also be happy in our own company. That we don’t need any outside support to live our life in the best possible way. Such people are truly amazing characters as they turn their loneliness into happiness quite well utilizing their courage & wisdom.
Hidden Kinds of Loneliness
|Hidden Kinds of Loneliness|
But loneliness comes in various forms & shapes. Some are quite apparent and visible but others are hidden, tricky & deceiving. Loneliness that resides within us in broad daylight and while sitting among our loved ones is one such case. It stays with us even after having everything and everyone we want in life and hence is the most confusing & dangerous form of loneliness. This is because we don’t know the precise reason for it which makes it even more difficult to find a solution to it. And this is the motive of this blog. To look into the various possible reasons for hidden loneliness and find practical solutions to them. So, let’s begin & explore the dimensions of hidden loneliness.
Causes & Solutions of Hidden Loneliness
|Causes & Solutions of Hidden Loneliness|
The first and the most common reason for hidden loneliness is being surrounded by fake people with fake concern for you. These people are generally non-family members. They are part of your social circle and you have to maintain various types of professional, social & human relations with them for no real reason. You have to constantly smile at them & their opinions and talk about your life and everything else with them pretending to be absolutely fine being around them. Actually, they are not bad people but the the fault lies in the formal relation you have with them. It is the social compulsion that is the culprit here. It is too much of a burden to act in a certain manner when you are so not in the mood. And when you spend the most part of your day with such people, you start feeling lonely in their company.
Life is too short to spend it with the people we don’t want to be with. So, spend it with the people you love and not with the people who would give you material benefits. But earning our livelihood is also important and the society is real. So how do we do this? There are a few things you can do. First and foremost, identify & categorize these people. Think who really makes you happy and who is a formal acquaintance to you.
The next step is to ensure that you minimize your time with them and in their company. The problem is that to strengthen a business relation with a client, we agree on having meals and drinks with them and spend sometime telling them that we are their friend. Public relations of your company is important but your personal relations matter too. What you need to do is to do your work in the best possible way but in the minimum possible time. Your client might also appreciate this act as it saves his time too. So, spend more time with the people who really matter to you so as not to feel lonely in a crowd of people.
The second reason where you might feel lonely when surrounded by people is while sitting with your family. But family are the real people for you. They are the ones who matter to you the most. Why would you feel lonely with them? It’s hard to digest and understand but if we spend too much time with the people we love the most, we might start feeling bored and lonely around them too.
This happens because when we remain with someone for too long, we get used to this situation and start feeling cramped-up in their company. Sometimes, we need to go away from our loved ones for sometime so as to re-energize, realize their value to us and also to give ourself some me-time. So, when you feel lonely and dull sitting with your family or friends, just take a break from them, be alone for sometime and do what you really like doing to get yourself re-energized!
|Solutions of Hidden Loneliness|
But don’t think that you won’t ever feel lonely in your own company. Me-time is not always & totally fun esp. when its duration is too long. Actually, you can feel the loneliest when you are alone. The physical body needs people around it. It needs to be aware of liveliness around it and hence it may make you feel like running out in the open and finding someone who you can talk to, play with and spend some quality time with.
This happens not because you fear your own company but because you have become habitual of not facing your true self, its concerns and its fears. You have become habitual of staying in the ‘comfort’ of outside help to feel good & valuable. But this is your test and this is your opportunity to remove loneliness for once and forever from your life. If you don’t feel lonely in your own company, you would never feel lonely in anybody else’s company because then you will always remain connected to yourself. You have to fill the loneliness when alone with all the liveliness you can garner & gather from within yourself. You have to create happiness & companionship in nothingness.
If you can do this, loneliness would never trouble you again in your life! If you can do this, you will become able to turn a deserted mind into a garden! And the good thing is that you don’t have to do anything to achieve this stage in life. You just have to become peaceful & happy in your own company. If you can keep yourself alone for sometime, you will definitely find ways to be happy during that time. You will get time to know yourself inside-out and become absolutely comfortable in your own company. And this is how you will remove all traces of hidden loneliness from your life easily & forever.
To root-out any problem forever from our lives, we have to learn to face, fight and defeat it alone. The story remains the same for loneliness too. To root out loneliness from your life, willingly go towards it and turn it into the best company one can ever have in their lives. The only thing you need to do this is a little courage, the courage to fight the darkness within & turn it into a source of light, hope and happiness for yourself!
|Loneliness To Fulfillment|