Introduction
Can you imagine life without calmness within yourself? Well, you may still manage to stay alive but you won’t be living at all. To live a life worth living, inner peace is inevitable. Everything starts and ends with it, to say the least. But it is not that easy to attain inner peace. We have to work for it and earn it. And even when you build it deep within yourself, it is still not safe in the material world. Dealing with other people can be tricky. You will find people who would try and demolish it. But you should not let this happen. Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.
This is what we are going to learn in this blog so that you don t let anyone steal your peace. Let’s begin by understanding what Inner Peace is.
What does Inner Peace mean?
Inner peace is the feeling of tranquility within yourself in your deepest space. You are totally at peace. Nothingness & Meditativeness are the essences of inner peace.
Importance of Inner Peace in Our Lives
You can think, feel, and emote, with utmost clarity and wisdom. When you look at something, you can stay calm & composed which helps you in extracting the best out of yourself from any activity that you may perform. Perfect actions just flow out of you. You develop perfect balance within yourself and great control over external objects. And by it, you can achieve anything that you may wish for.
Is Inner Peace Destructible?
Inner peace is extremely difficult to build and it may be destroyed very easily if you have not mastered it. It can be destroyed by three sources.
Nature
Inner peace is instilled in nature by design. If someone is not at peace, it’s extremely difficult to move towards nature or inner peace. It’s like moving ahead against the wind. You have to experience and withstand a lot of hardships if you finally have to attain inner peace. And only when you have reached really close to the inner peace threshold, are you “pulled in” by nature into inner peace.
You
If you have not attained inner peace, are easily annoyed or angered by anyone, or are weak enough to hold onto inner peace, it eludes you. Hence, you can say that a greater part of the onus of maintaining inner peace within yourself is on you. So, it’s you who has to stop letting others control your happiness and inner peace.
Society/People
Society is not a nature’s construction. It is man-made or artificial, which is why it stays against nature and inner peace. So, if you try to be natural or build inner peace, the members of society would test you severely. People will try to give you stress & trauma in many ways possible. Although unknowingly, they would try their best that you don’t attain inner peace. And if you show great resilience and achieve it, they would try to destroy it. Thus, learn how to deal with someone who wants to destroy you and your inner peace.
Why do some people try to destroy the inner peace of others?
People try to destroy the inner peace established by others within themselves for many visible reasons. The main among these reasons are the following.
They Don’t Have Inner Peace Themselves
When somebody doesn’t have inner peace within themselves, they won’t let you have it either, intentionally or unintentionally. They would create trouble, negativity, and violence in your life so that you are not able to attain inner peace. And if you still do, they would up their efforts to try and pull you out of it. So beware and know how to not let others affect your happiness.
They Have An Inherent Destructive Nature
Some people cannot stand good things. They try to bring it down or destroy it. The reason for this type of nature is their negative attitude and pessimistic approach towards life in general. When the ability to grow is curtailed, you develop a fear of success for yourself and for everyone else around you.
They Are Jealous of Others
Jealousy exists in people not only with respect to material wellness but also in terms of spiritual prowess. When somebody can’t stay peaceful, they get jealous of others and try to bring them down to their level. They won’t let anyone move towards inner peace, let alone attain it. So, learn how to not let people get to you with their jealousy.
What happens in The Absence of Inner Peace?
If you have never developed or experienced inner peace, you go through a lot of “inner” & “outer” difficulties on day to day basis. These difficulties come in the form of the following problems.
Stress
When you don’t have inner peace, your system generates stress, anxiety, and worries. When you are sitting idle, you feel stressed. And when you try to do something, you feel even more stressed and anxious. Even doing things you like would not give you peace. Thus, don’t let anyone disturb your peace.
Feeling Lost
When you don’t have inner peace within yourself, your thought process is a mess. Your mind is desperately looking for stability, peace, and rest. So, it is continuously trying to find ways to do so. But since you don’t have inner peace, your mind remains in the same condition, it remains lost. So, don t let people get to you or your personal space that belongs only to you.
Struggles & Failures
It is obvious that if your mind is a mess, you won’t be able to do anything significant, meaningful, or successful. You will be all around the place. Your efficiency and output level would be extremely low. You will create more work than accomplishing them. All this would make you frustrated, sad, and depressed. Thus, don t let someone make you go through all these sufferings.
What do people do to destroy your inner peace?
Being at peace with someone is an art. People who want to destroy your inner peace try different things to succeed in their foul intentions. They don’t believe in being someone’s peace but in becoming the reason for their misery. They do the following mischiefs.
Non-Stop Complaints
People who want to keep others from attaining inner peace or destroy it, keep cursing, complaining, or foul-mouthing them. They want to shake their clarity, self-confidence, and inner freedom. These complaints may create self-doubts in people which prevents them from staying peacefully within themselves, hence destroying their inner peace. Thus, find ways how to not let someone bother you and destroy your inner peace.
Pulling You Into Ugly Arguments
If and when you pay attention to the complaints of such people, they pull you into ugly and unending arguments. It may create discontent in a person’s mind which would naturally take away his inner peace. And even after the argument has ended, they keep thinking about the arguments, their relevance, and their consequences. This attracts them into deep frustration & agony. Hence, you should also know how to regain peace of mind and thus preserve your inner peace.
Physical Violence
Violence is the best and the most effective tool employed by people who want to destroy your inner peace. It’s not easy to recover from any type of violence, torture, or physical abuse. It leaves a deep effect and trauma in you. They know it, thus they employ this strategy to snatch your inner peace for a very long time.
Why do we allow people to destroy our Inner Peace?
When somebody wants to demolish our inner peace, why do we succumb to it? It may happen due to the following reasons.
Silence is Seen As Weakness
When we remain silent, calm, and peaceful, people think we are weak. They try to put greater pressure on us that may push us to the brink. And many people can’t take it anymore. They react to them and in the process, lose their self-control, balance, and inner peace.
What they should have done was focus on their inner peace and not on what the other person is trying to do. Inner peace can be attained only by facing and overcoming bigger challenges on the way and not by giving in to them.
Under-Confidence
People who like peace and tranquility are usually under-confident about themselves. They try to stay calm just to avoid confrontations and brawls. But you cannot build or sustain inner peace by avoiding the real situation.
In fact, it is built by facing and going through them bravely. You don’t have to fight anything or anyone, you just have to stay meditative when your patience is challenged. When you cross the hurdles of doing the difficult things calmly, you deserve and hence attain inner peace. You finally discover how to stop being someone else and hence build inner peace within yourself.
Lapse in Patience, Continuity, & Focus
When we are very close to attaining inner peace, the risk of snapping is the highest. The pressure of achieving, accomplishing, or succeeding in something gets to the mind which may make you lose focus. And once you snap out, you have to start all over again.
Hence, the journey towards inner peace or its attainment should not be seen as some achievement. It should be seen as the basic necessity of life. Only then will you be moving towards it with all your heart and soul without losing focus even for an instant.
Why Should We Not Allow Our Inner Peace To Get Destroyed?
We should not let the behaviors of others destroy our inner peace. But why so? You will understand it better through the following points.
To Get The Best Out of Life
We have got only one life. We should live it to the best of our capability and to the best of its scope or potential. And when we don’t have happiness and inner peace within ourselves, life can be really troublesome and suffocating. Hence, to be at our best always and get the best out of every situation, don t let others destroy your happiness.
To Be Truly Happy & Free
Happiness & Freedom are a few things that come from within us. And in the absence of these basic necessities of a sound life, life has no meaning or value. Hence, to protect and safeguard our happiness and freedom, we should never let others destroy our inner peace.
It’s Very Difficult to Create or Rebuild
Many people are not able to build inner peace within themselves throughout their lifetime. Others attain it just before they are about to leave the world. Very few people are able to create, maintain, or rebuild it within themselves at the right times. And there is no guarantee that you will reattain it once it is lost. So, once you develop it within yourself, don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.
What happens when inner peace gets destroyed?
When your inner peace is disturbed, you have to undergo a lot of challenges and threats. These situations are further explained through the following points.
Internal Disequilibrium
When you let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace, you are thrown into “internal disequilibrium”. It pushes you far away from who you really want to become or what you really are. And when sanity comes back, you have lost your inner peace and are quite far from it.
Repeat The Difficult Process
You have to start the whole process again. You have to pass through the same difficult challenges all over again. In short, you have to through a lot of struggles before you can come close to attaining inner peace again. And all of this because you could not control your emotions due to someone else’s behavior. It’s simply not worth it. You should never trade away your inner peace for anything else in the world.
It May Be Lost Forever
Another downside when you risk your inner peace is that you may not achieve it ever again. Attaining inner peace is a very natural process that takes a lot of determination, patience, and acceptance. Hence, it is difficult to rebuild again and again esp. after throwing it away for someone else. It gives you the impression that you value what others are doing more than maintaining your inner peace. Thus, do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.
How can we create inner peace?
There are three basic steps to create inner peace within ourselves.
Mental Detachment
You need to mentally detach yourself from material possessions, dreams, aspirations, goals, people, and everything around you. This is the basic step that you need to follow so that you can create space for observing yourself exclusive of everything else. You may not need to actually cut off yourself from things and people. But you have to see yourself as separate from them. It’s because it may be anything, if it takes away your peace, it’s not worth it.
Withdrawal From Meaninglessness
Once you detach yourself mentally from everything around you, you need to pull out of everything that doesn’t make sense to you. Be it your job or relationships, meaning should be the criteria to adopt it. If we talk about relationships, inner peace in relationships is difficult to find. But if you build them with meaning, everything solves itself.
Thus, do only those things in which you can see meaning or purpose. This purpose need not be a material benefit. It should be something that elevates you as a human being. Something that improves you and opens up your senses further and further to a point where you are completely open, sensitive, and alert.
Nothingness or Meditativeness
When you achieve mental detachment and meaningfulness in life, you can now sit in one place with your eyes closed. You are now ready to pay attention to your true nature. It would take a lot of patience, persistence, and resilience, but with great devotion and determination, you will find your true self. And when you do, you will develop inner peace within yourself. Hence, meditativeness of mind is a must if you want to keep peace of mind going.
How can we rebuild inner peace?
When you are thrown into internal disequilibrium upon reacting to other people’s behavior, you have to follow an added step in addition to the above steps. This step relates to developing balance within yourself.
Develop Balance
When you react to other people’s behavior and lose your inner peace in the process, you lose your “shape” or balance. You have to regain it before you go for mental detachment. You can regain balance with time but it is a really slow and time-taking process.
To rebuild your balance and composure, you may opt to practice acceptance for which meditation might help in a great way. Sit in a dark and quiet place alone and reflect on your thoughts. Find answers to the questions, doubts, and fears your mind raises. Clear all the clouds of doubts in your head to Fastrack your path to creating inner peace within yourself.
How can we maintain inner peace?
We can look at this question in a more meaningful way. How can we stop letting other people’s behavior destroy our inner peace? Here is the answer.
Ignore
Behaviors that create irritation, annoyance, or anger within you should be ignored altogether. When you are fully peaceful from within, this is a very easy task. You are so happy and blissful inside that your senses don’t go off track even for a second. You are busy enjoying your inner peace and doing things in your own life. And when you are able to ignore negative people for a considerable time, it becomes subsequently easier to keep doing so. So, learn to ignore and don’t let other people’s behavior affect you.
Sustain
When you have not developed inner peace concretely within yourself, there is a risk of you being pulled out of it. But you can still sustain the threats. All you need to do is to be focused on your purpose rather than focusing on the ill will of negative people. If you don’t forget that you are on your way to inner peace, nothing can distract you or take you off track. Negativity can never defeat meaningfulness within you. Thus, don’t let others steal your peace away through their negative ways.
Overpower
The actions that come out of you when you are peaceful from within further instill inner peace within you. It strengthens your resolve to not react to negative people’s wrong behaviors. The positive energy of your inner peace-based actions easily overpowers the negative energy of people. Thus, whatever they might be doing to shake you, everything would keep strengthening the inner peace within you. It’s like the weapon of your enemy secretly working for you. It proves to be extremely effective in not letting someone into your personal space. That’s the power of inner peace!
Conclusion
It’s your life and you have to take control and full responsibility for it. People would go through challenges that might make them bitter, jealous, and negative. They may try to use it on you to keep you from developing inner peace within yourself. You should be the one who doesn’t have to let this happen. You should have enough inner strength to be able to create and maintain inner peace within yourself. Choose peace of mind over pain & suffering and don t try to be someone else. And when you are able to do this, life will be a cakewalk as you would be able to fulfill all your desires and aspirations effortlessly. Thus, find how to become peaceful person and don t let the behavior of others destroy your peace.